“When you don’t take responsibility, when you blame others, circumstances, fate or chance, you give away your power. When you take and retain full responsibility – even when others are wrong or the situation is genuinely unfair – you keep your life’s reins in your own hands”. – Jeff Olson
Taking responsibility is empowering because it puts us in a position where we cannot play the victim. When we play the victim, life seems to be working against us, it’s like our worst tormentor just keeps making us feel powerless.
Of course it’s hard for a lot of us to take responsibility for everything that happens in our lives, we like make lots of excuses to justify but only we can make the changes in our lives, so we might as well take responsibility to whatever happens to us.
We all know what it’s like to play the victim and we now that it’s awfully disempowering.
While taking responsibility for everything that happens in our lives may not always be the right or fairest thing to do, it is always the most empowering thing to do. No one can take this choice and power away from us, it has always been in our control and always will be.
We can all point our finger and blame the outside world and we all have done from time to time, it’s very easy to do so. It’s one of the egos favourite ways of keeping us under it’s control.
But what is far more helpful and empowering is to focus on within. Focus on what is in our control and what we can change to bring about a different experience or result. Instead of pointing our fingers outside of ourselves and holding something or someone else responsible, we can point the finger at us and be okay with being in the wrong and messing up.
The sooner w learn to take full responsibility for our lives the sooner we will grow as a person and stop giving our power way to the outside world. Because until we do, we’re working under the illusion that we’re not in control of our lives and that outside events or people have the power to manipulate it.
For example, the next time we find ourselves in the position where we can potentially blame someone or something, we can practice this instead. We can stop focusing on that person or situation and ask ourselves these questions.
What can I learn from this? What steps can I take to put me in a better position? What can I do differently to prepare for it happening again?
Here is a video I’m sure you’ll find helpful.
I trust you found this post helpful in some way. Feel free to leave a comment in the section below if you have any questions regarding this post.
Until next time
Peace, love and empowerment!