Before we get into my story, here’s what I do…
I spend most of my time researching online, reading books and writing about topics I enjoy and find really empowering. These include Science based self-help, Habits, Productivity, Creativity, Philosophy and Ancient Wisdom.
I then put these insights I read from the books into practice and help others do the same through my articles.
Quick note: what I mean by empowered is being authentic and mentally strong. Not the empowered sense of being an egomaniac who thinks they are better and bigger than everyone else. I feel that we can reach ultimate empowerment only by being honest with ourselves.
My experience with a fear disorder
I must admit, I was always a shy child, always insecure about something. I did really well to hide the dark cloud for most of my childhood.
I think I was an easy target for bullies in school because I was extremely sensitive and anxious.
Even though I spent most of my childhood in an anxious state, It wasn’t until my teenage years when I really experienced intense psychological suffering. I think a lot of the emotional pain was built up due to the death of a loved one and a pet, this happened very sudden and my mindset took a crumble.
I was really shocked because I didn’t know what on earth was happening to me, It just got worse and worse. I stopped seeing people, I stopped visiting different places, even just speaking to people on the phone and texting people seemed pretty scary.
I was even worried about trivial things, things which were completely irrelevant to anything, I just didn’t worry about anything like that before.
People were really surprised about how I went from being active, energetic, talkative and enjoying life to being completely cut off from most things.
I was in college at the time of my spell with high anxiety and I was really enjoying the course, it was a sport course which I was thoroughly interested in.
Eventually I just had to call it quits and leave the course which I was extremely frustrated with. But I just couldn’t seem to concentrate or cope with anything and going to college was terrifying, at least it was for me.
I also left two or three more courses which I was really enjoying due to my mental health issues. I think my issues got worse simply because I wasn’t living in acceptance of them and not dealing with them in the appropriate way. (I later learnt from a method which I’ll mention shortly that creating structure in your life drives out the anxiety).
I was just wishing the anxiety to be gone, like you would do because it seemed pretty normal to fight against anxiety, however this just strengthened my fears and made the clouds darker.
My family were in complete desperation for obvious reasons and my dad decided to purchase a well recommended anxiety elimination program after spending about a week looking for alternative therapies. I mention this program a lot on this site as it has helped me tremendously.
Before finding this method, I visited the doctors, mental health therapists, counselors, CBT practitioners, EFT practitioners, hypnotherapists and so on. None of these things actually provided me with a way to overcome my problems, even with consistent practice of techniques included.
Now that I am free from the core of the anxiety, It is like waking up from a nightmare, it’s finally over. Such relief!
My purpose now
My whole purpose now is to help you be authentically empowered through sharing real self-help. What I mean my real self-help is the stuff that is honestly helpful and stands the test of time.
Let me give you a few examples of self-help that is honest and stands the test of time. Replacing the habits which are destroying us with the habits that support our health and growth. Giving up on people pleasing. Focusing on what we do have as opposed to what we don’t have. Being completely honest with ourselves. For example, saying no and yes when we really want to. Understanding that the regular reminder of death isn’t a morbid thing but a truly helpful way of making us live more meaningful lives. Making time for the things that bring us enrichment and enjoyment. Adopting a perspective of ourselves and the world (philosophy) that supports us, rather than holding us back. These examples are just a slice of what you’ll find on this site.
At any time you don’t find the information helpful then you’re more than welcome to discard it. Just take what works for you and drop the rest.
Originally I wrote the content on this site as a way for me to be reminded of the wisdom I’ve learnt and applied into my own life over the last 3 – 5 years. Then I realized that other’s would benefit from what I write here. If I can just help one person make a difference in their life, then that’s enough.
Spending most of our lives wrapped up in negative emotions can seem a scary and lonely place but there are definitely ways you can deal with it. I share with you the ways which have helped me deal with it the most on this site.
I’m currently in the process of writing a guidebook about real self-help that stands the test of time which will include everything that I’ve mentioned above and a lot, lot more.
I’m sure you will enjoy reading and benefiting from the information I create more than I enjoy writing it! Feel free to ask any questions in the comments section below if you have any inquires or concerns.
Peace, love and empowerment!
Creator of Self Empowered Life