The real obstacle to happiness Is the not living in the present moment and being attached to the past and future…
True happiness is an inside out process… not an outside in, nothing outside of ourselves will ever satisfy us for long! It may do for a short period, however we would get in a cycle of attracting and attaining different sorts of possessions to try and fill in the missing pieces to make us feel more complete.
This is just a delusion and i liken it to chasing the horizon, we will be going after it only to find out that it moves away the more we feel we are getting closer to the horizon, real big illusion and will change your views on life if you learn to accept where you are now and give up your attachment to external possessions and live in the now.
If you don’t learn to accept where you are now and be content with this moment, then you will always live in disillusionment and will continuously need external things to give you a sense of self which is usually substituted for your true nature and it isn’t separate from the present moment.
Why is living in time dysfunctional?
What I mean by living in time is past and future, also known in the personal development/spiritual world as psychological time, and this is looking in the past for your false identity and continuously projecting your mind on the future, greatly anticipating it.
This is such a dysfunctional way to live, this is one of the main reasons why so much inner turmoil and suffering is created. People not enjoying and living life to the fullest because they are missing out on one simple thing… the now.
Why is the present moment so important? It is so important because past and future can only be experienced in the mind, wow! what a liberation it is to know that the only moment which is actually real is this moment, right now.
Many lives are ruined because people are too busy dwelling on past incidents which they have no power to change as it as happened, so if something has happened, why spend your precious time worrying about something which has gone and that you cannot even change?
Why spend your precious time fearing an imagined future that doesn’t even exist, or only exists as the present moment… There is a quote below by Eckhart Tolle, a well known spiritual teacher/master which I really resonate with.
“Are you worried? Do you have many “what if thoughts? You are identified with your mind, which is projecting itself into an imaginary future situation and creating fear.
There is no way that you can cope with such a situation because it doesn’t exist. It’s a mental phantom. You can stop this health – and life – corroding insanity simply by acknowledging the present moment”.
It is such a waste of vital life energy but people are too blind to see that this is the cause of their problems because they are so trapped in their minds misery that the will also tend to blame others for the unhappiness.
Something which I have learnt is that it is never the situation which causes dysfunction but your perception towards things. Most people blame life circumstances/situations for their continuous suffering but it is their frequent identification with past and future.
My experiences living in the dysfunctional way
I spent most of my life up until the last three – four years living in the past and future, always thinking about what mistakes I made in the past, what things I said that I shouldn’t of said, what things I missed out on and worrying about the future.
I can promise you that you will not find lasting inner peace by not living in the now, It really is the salvation to all of your self created difficulties.
Thinking about if I will mess up when the opportunity arises, fearing certain events which were always out of my control and were no way near as made as my mind would make them out to be, I am sure you will have experienced it to, I mean who hasn’t?
A book I highly recommend
There is a book which I know will suit your needs and will act as a catalyst for lasting inner peace, I have read this book so many times and in fact I still read it every day.
It is rated one of my top products and it has helped me through some really difficult experiences and I am truly grateful for the author for writing such an amazing, perception changing classic.
It is called the power of now and you can check out my review on the book right here!
I’m more than positive that you have enjoyed reading about why living in the past and future whilst avoiding the present moment has serious consequences for your all round well-being and happiness.
I would be more than grateful to interact to all comments, questions, and experiences in the comment thread below. I know a lot of you will have some awesome insights to share along with some opinions. I would love to hear them…
Peace & Love