I am very against people relying on their happiness for outside things, I don’t mean to judge or offend you, there is no outside in process to happiness… It’s all inside out!
You may feel that moving up in your job ranking and having a better pay makes you happy or a new car you have just seen and want makes you feel extremely excited and you have to have it!
We have all been there, we all know things which we desire and feel they will make us a little happier.
However much you seek for happiness when relying on outside things, then it is more than likely that the object you want, is eventually cut short because nothing outside ourselves can give us long lasting happiness.
Why is this so and what is the answer?
Why do people seek outside things for their happiness
Well the answer is because people try to find their sense of selves through external objects for example, if somebody is interested in buying a new car then they may feel it will make them more happy and complete, even though they will feel this way to start with, the cunning illusion will not last forever and eventually they will want a new car and so the cycle of “seeking” things for their happiness continues.
“That women has a dress I really would like” I “need” to get this now!
Th above sentence is a perfect example of how people are obsessed with needing things, they can never be grateful for who they are now, without attaining certain things then apparently they will not feel good enough or successful.
Another factor where people look outside themselves for happiness is when they feel they have to be someone else other than who they are already before they can finally be happy or live a harmonious lifestyle, I need to get this job promotion from this to that so i can feel more powerful and complete.
A great quote below.
Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are – Kurt
The only way you can find true lasting happiness is by breaking this deluded state and start appreciating everything you have right now.
The Answer is
Well the only place where true happiness and peace exists is from the inside, you can only be happy now,in the mind and soul… you cannot be happy at some future point in time, simply because the future is only a mind projection and doesn’t exist in reality, so you could say you’re putting off your happiness now for some illusion which never comes and stays in the future, whatever we think about becomes our reality, so thinking about the future for fulfillment and salvation will just keep you stuck in a cycle – which you really do not want to be in!
By living life in the NOW you can really reap the benefits and you’ll see how effortless life really becomes when you allow life to live through you, rather than you living life.
I’m confident you have enjoyed this post as much as i have writing it, trust me nothing outside yourself will ever make you happy for long.
I also would recommend writing out a “being grateful” list as this really does work and will accelerate things when aiming to be happy.
All you need is a pen and a notepad, just think of all the things you are grateful for and start writing them down, it doesn’t matter what they are, big or small… anything that makes you think “yep, I was grateful and happy about that”
I learn’t that from a personal development audio CD and it’s recommended to do it for 15 minutes everyday. It may not seem powerful and effective now, but trust me when you start doing it, you will know and feel different.
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Peace & Love