I wouldn’t go to the doctors
The doctors are a waste of time when it comes to anxiety conditions. I went to the doctors lots during my years with high anxiety and it was like groundhog day. There is no solution waiting for us down at the doctors. What they will most likely do is offer drugs and talking therapy.
Drugs are not designed to hit the root cause of anxiety, they only tackle the symptoms. When you’re own anti-anxiety medication you feel like a zombie… and that isn’t even an exaggeration.
Side note: I’m not an expert on clinical depression because I haven’t experienced it. They do have drugs which balances out the chemistry in the brain, so I would still recommend going to the doctors if you suffer from depression. But anxiety and depression are not the same. They are at opposite ends of the scale.
How wonderful it be if we could just take a drug to cure our anxiety? But it just doesn’t work that way. And relying solely on drugs for depression isn’t the answer either. A depressed person will still need to create balance in their lives. Through exercise, a good diet, fresh air, immersing in hobbies, pursuing passions, avoiding horrible people etc etc.
Talking therapy might make us feel better in the moment but by talking about how we feel, we’re actually reinforcing the anxiety. Our minds want to forget about anxiety and return to emotional balance, this cannot happen if we’re constantly reminding ourselves of the anxiety.
Anxiety after a while becomes a habit, we reinforce the anxiety by carrying out the behaviours which feed it. So because it’s habitual, what do you think will happen to the neural pathways of anxiety by talking about? They will just get stronger.
Obviously go to the doctors about anything else, but when it comes to anxiety conditions, I would recommend avoiding them.
I wouldn’t research every symptom I experienced
Whenever I felt anxious, I would go online and search for what I was experiencing and would feel much worse after reading what I didn’t want to see. Again this perpetuated the anxiety, it didn’t do anything useful.
You see, when we are anxious, we are always perceiving pretty much everything as a threat and so we constantly seek reassurance. This is why things like talking therapy, talking about how we feel to others makes sense to us at the time because we are looking for that escape from fear. and temporarily this works.
But like I mentioned earlier, anxiety becomes habituated by practicing the behaviours which fuel it. So in the long run, we are actually making things worse. This is why we have to stop the behaviours and habits which feed the anxiety.
What I did do & would highly recommend
I stopped doing all the above and followed a program called The Linden Method. This method was created by a guy named Charles Linden who suffered from high anxiety for around 25 years, he tried pretty much everything there is to try in the conventional world of therapy.
But nothing worked and whilst his girlfriend (now wife) was out making a living for the both of them, anxious Charles used his time wisely by researching online for possible ways to overcome anxiety. He has always said he is a born researcher so he used this natural tendency to look for a solution.
He believed that there had to be people in the world who suffered like he did and are now over their anxieties. He put his findings into a distilled program.
Fast forward 22 years later and The Linden Method has helped over 250,000 people through it’s home learning programs.
I was one of the people who suffered as badly as Charles. I implemented his method to switch off the high anxiety at it’s core. This can only be done by breaking apart the anxious neurology and replacing it with non-anxious neural pathways. Our emotional control centre is activated by our senses, so this is why using cognitive (thought-based) therapies cannot produce curative results because it isn’t the right conduit to switch off the fear response.
When I say ‘switch’, it kind of insinuates that it happened quickly. It did not… not in the slightest.
Just like making progress with anything in life, it takes time, dedication, hard work, persistence, compliance, a burning desire to overcome it and the attitude of never giving up. I could relate to Charles because in a way his story was very similar to mine. At least the severity of his suffering was.
I cut out binge drinking and stopped eating so much junk food.
Why? Because binge drinking is an imbalance and imbalances always tend to backfire. And this doesn’t just apply to drinking. Whatever we binge on will have a negative effect on our psychology and physiology.
Meaning that every time I would drink during anxiety, I felt awful. Of course I still drink and eat junk food, but I do it in moderation. Moderation being the key word here. Life is about doing our best to keep things in balance. Whenever their is an imbalance in our system, our neurology cannot handle it and so we experience things like high anxiety, stress, overwhelm, burnout etc etc.
I also adopted the habit of exercising everyday.
Walking is great for our neurology and all-round health. When we exercise on a consistent basis, we feel much better about ourselves which makes us feel a lot more confident and thus less fearful.
Other forms of exercise which is ideal during times of high anxiety are cycling and running. But it all depends on our fitness levels. If you don’t feel you’re fit enough to run, then walking and cycling is a perfect.
Our environment plays a massive part in our recovery from high anxiety. Even though most things in this world are out of our control, we can still take control of our environment by deciding what are going to do.
I focused on what I naturally enjoyed (Hobbies)
Even though during high anxiety we don’t feel like doing much, focusing on our hobbies helps us through these hellish times. It’s all about focusing our mind on the things we value and enjoy, that way we can feed back the healthy, creative information back to our subconscious mind and this builds new behaviour. Just sitting there dwelling on how bad we feel isn’t going to help us.
It might seem impossible to feel better when the symptoms and thoughts are so overwhelming. But the more we practice stopping the negative behaviours and practice doing the healthy behaviours, we can make a positive change.
I stopped hanging around with people who were not good for my mental health
This comes back to how our environment effects us. Avoiding people who have a negative effect on your mental health is extremely important to our health and happiness in life. So much of our energy gets drained from spending a lot of time with energy vampires. The best medicine here is to avoid them, or at least as much as we can. If these are people that you can’t avoid like the people we work with then here is a few things you can do to keep your power.
- Don’t play their game. They feed off our energy when we react in a negative way. This empowers them.
- Play along with them. Smile and don’t take it personally. After all, it is their problem. Anyone who treats others in a non-acceptable way has BIG issues, let’s be honest.
- Any negative energy you feel within you, just allow it to be as it is while you carry on being nonreactive externally. By fighting how we internally feel, we feed our anxiety. Give up the fight.
If there are any more things I can remember doing or recommend doing, I’ll update this article.